So, as Black queer men, we have male privilege that largely provides us with protection from things like the gender-based violence women face every day.But despite our male privilege, the intersection of our Blackness and queerness exists in a society that privileges heterosexuality.If I returned to the app one day I might even tell the real truth and put “blacks only.” Does that, according to the These days, I wouldn’t actually write “no whites” on my profile. But I would come up with a formulation to achieve the same effect, like, say, “9 inches and over, and don’t contact me if you can name more than four hockey players.” Social justice warriors sure do tie themselves into knots over all this stuff.I’ve noticed, for instance, that white gay men have started to get criticised because apparently they have “unhelpful” attitudes toward women sometimes. Where would you bitches be without our caustic fashion advice, hmm? After all, gay men are natural cultural libertarians, but Joan Rivers and drag queen culture with its no-holds-barred taboo-free fingers-up-at-the-world attitude is like kryptonite to SJWs.
I was lucky enough to be raised by a pro-Black mother who affirmed the beauty and brilliance of my Blackness.
Systems of oppression based on race sometimes pressure queer men of color to lie about or hide their racial/ethnic identity in online dating spaces like Grindr in order to get positive romantic and sexual attention.
I’ve met a few people who have experienced problems with online dating.
These topics are also regularly discussed in the published quarterly newsletter Q Visions, the NABWMT website ( many podcasts, and local chapter "gabfests." Indeed, the two Facebook pages (with over 13,000 members as of 2016) may represent one of the few opportunities for people from around the world to view and engage in civil communications in real time about these provocative topics, some of which may be forbidden in their countries.
After 26 years as a Black queer man and two separate 2.5-year relationships with white men, 2015 is the year I have decided to stop dating white men indefinitely.
Education about racism, homophobia and HIV/AIDS remain a primary focus of NABWMT and its local chapters.