One reason many fifty-something’s phones aren’t ringing is because, well, no one knows you want it to!
So for starters, quit assuming your friends, family, and colleagues are aware that you’re looking for setups and just There are plenty of places to keep your eyes peeled—and I’m not talking about the bar scene or nightclubs packed with twenty-somethings.
While it’s easy to feel like a fish out of water surrounded by blissful couples, don’t worry—there are plenty of people just like you who are hoping to find The One. Write down three things you have every right to feel good about, whether that’s your killer wit, incredible cooking skills, or the fact that you can still beat your nephew at tennis. Maybe it’s time to commit to dropping ten pounds or to treat yourself to a shopping spree to spruce up your wardrobe.
In my experience as a psychotherapist of 35 years, I have helped thousands of men and women of all ages jump into the dating game (not to mention enjoy it immensely! Giving yourself a goal to strive for can do wonders for your attitude.
Deep down, you know it’s not too late—never too late—to find love.
What you need now are time-tested tips on successful senior dating. It’s true that many dating rules have changed, but this much never will: laughter, spontaneity, and a healthy appetite for fun are still highly attractive. Teenagers rarely dwell on their past—because they don’t have one!I’ve heard so many different rules about dating someone older, and they all boil down to a magic number: “Don’t date anyone more than ten years older,” or “Marriages never work if there’s more than fifteen years’ difference.” People love rules, telling themselves that abiding by them will cause them to get hurt less. The most important rule to follow is a general one: Make sure the two of you have the same goals for the relationship and for your daily life together. Think about whether you want to get married; have a big or tiny wedding; have children; be with someone who already has kids; live in the future in the same town or city where you’ve been dating; move somewhere far or close; have extended family very involved or not very involved in your life; have a relationship where you socialize almost always together or often; have a partner who’s more of a social butterfly or homebody; and have a partner who is very involved or not very involved in extracurricular activities. Psychological Age You’ve probably heard someone say, “He seems young for his age,” or “She’s so young at heart.” Though we all have a chronological age, we also have what I refer to as a ‘psychological age.’ How old do you feel, for example? In addition, ask yourself what the psychological age is of your prospective older partner. Again, use those early months of a relationship to gauge whether your sexualities are congruent enough. Don’t embrace any rigid rule about age differences. Don’t be fooled into thinking that just because someone is older, he or she isn’t very sexual.Four senior dating tips to guide your renewed quest for love in your life.Here’s a senior dating dilemma: On one hand, the society we live in tells people of a certain age that their best opportunities for love and romance have come and gone. On the other hand, a part of you still feels like an adventurous teenager, regardless of what age appears on your driver’s license.Harry, divorced at 57, told me this story: “I always wanted to be a good dancer.